Yesterday was definitely a day for learning. I’m usually as interested in the lives of celebrities as I am in cracks in the pavement, but a very few do stand out from the Red Carpet crowd and are worthy of my admiration.
I was in the waiting room at the dentists yesterday and picked up a magazine. On the cover there was something about Melanie Sykes and her autistic son.
I didn’t even know she has an autistic son.
Naturally, I flipped through the pages searching for that story. As a parent of a child with autism – and as an autistic parent – I wanted to read about how she handles things.
“Sometimes I want to say to people ‘He’s autistic. Chill out!’ But then I realise that I don’t need to explain my son or myself to anyone, and so I don’t”. (Approximated quote, not verbatim from the magazine).
I don’t know about anybody else out there, but I love this attitude! She’s right on the money with it. Why should any of us have to apologise for having autism, or having an autistic child? As the saying goes: “Those that mind don’t matter, and those that matter don’t mind”.
So this is me saying something along the lines of “Hello world. I have autism. You might as well get used to it because I wouldn’t change if I could. Deal with it or not; I am me and I can love and be loved just like you”.
I don’t apologise for being autistic. Neither am I going to apologise for my son any more. If one more person asks me to apologise for not being NT I’m going to point them at this video:
I have an entire other post coming on comparisons between the X-Men and autists. If autism makes me a mutant then I stand proud with all the other “mutants” out there. Dare to be different? Yes I do, because this is who I am. Change a thing about my son? Absolutely not! I’d change my health to be able to care for him (the epilepsy, that is) but I wouldn’t change a thing about my beloved little Gremlin!
As always, image courtesy of Google.
If there’s one thing I have learned in life it is this: Never be afraid to be yourself. The right people will still love you anyway, warts, autism and all.